I always believed in the perfect romance and in happy
endings. I was so faithful that I conceded myself the freedom to think that the
perfect relationship -that we all dream about- would turn up in to a marriage
at one point. With the time, my innocent fantasy changed and I had to force
myself to adapt to reality. I didn’t have a choice. I was a bit traumatised
after seeing so many heartbroken women. All of them crying, blaming their
selves for being so “naïve” and “silly”. So, after all the dramatic situations
I saw I decided to blame Disney.
Yes, Disney. I grew up watching all this fantastic movies where the princess
found her true love after going through pain and hard obstacles. I concluded
that maybe that’s why some women allow their selves to resist so much and let a
bunch of guys break their hearts. I think that some women tend to believe that they
are that Disney princess that has to suffer and search until they find the
charm prince… BUT NO… That doesn’t exist and we need to get over it. We have to
stop blaming Disney and take care of our actions and decisions. We need to
learn that no relationship is perfect, but we also need to realise that WE CAN
NOT LOSE OUR DIGNITY FOR A MAN.
Actually –you know what? - Things are more complicated than that. It´s our fault as well because we work so hard to conquest that “special” human specimen that is making us feel so attracted to him. We bring out our better looks, clothes, manners, facets, wishes and we hide –or at least try to hide- all our “unwantable” aspects. I call it "hunting skills". I think first impressions say a lot, but they don’t last for ever. Here is the question. ¿Do we fall in love with the person or with what the person represents? I think that we always have to keep it real. If we show who we truly are things are going to be easier, because at the end of the day images and first impressions go away…and the only thing that last is who we are. And Disney: charm princes only exist in your tiny little world, because in our world –the real world- we are simply human beings and that means that we are not perfect.
Love,
Mia
